Allen was 15 when his father, a businessman, was robbed and murdered. He left school to work full-time in several British manufacturing firms to help support the family. He later married Lily L. Allen and became an executive secretary for a large company.
At age 38, inspired by the writings of Leo Tolstoy, he retired from employment. Allen — along with his wife and their daughter, Nohra — moved to a small cottage in Ilfracombe, Devon, England to pursue a simple life of contemplation. There he wrote for nine years, producing 19 works. He also edited and published a magazine, “The Light of Reason”.
Allen’s books illustrate the use of the power of thought to increase personal capabilities. Although he never achieved great fame or wealth, his works continue to influence people around the world, including the New Thought movement.
Allen’s most famous book, As a Man Thinketh, was published in 1902. It is now considered a classic self-help book. Its underlying premise is that noble thoughts make a noble person, while lowly thoughts make a miserable person.
Following his death in 1912, his wife continued publishing the magazine under the name, “The Epoch”.
The mind guides our footsteps as we progress along the pathway of life. Purity of mind leads inevitably to purity of life, to the precious love and understanding that should control our everyday acts and attitudes towards friends and foes.
But where must one look for guidance? How does one achieve purity of mind that alone brings happiness and confidence?
The author offers his clear answers in this book As A Man Thinketh. His words have helped millions for more than a century–and they continue to point the true way to a better life for a troubled humanity.
“Out of a clean heart comes a clean life and a clean body,” James Allen writes. “out of a defiled mind proceeds a defiled life and a corrupt body.”
Too many mortals strive to improve only their wordly position–and too few seek spiritual betterment. Such is the problem James Allen faced in his own time. The ideas he found in his inner-most heart after great searching guided him as they will guide you.(less)
A must read – since it is so short.
basically the lesson is: you become what you think and especially how you think. I try to read this at least once a year to gain clarity and remove myself from my negative thoughts (in my opinion, negative thoughts are the easy thoughts, for instance jelousy, envy, hate) think instead abundance and also I like the analogy of your mind as a garden. If you make no basic maintanence of it weeds will grow ever so slowly and then clutter your mind.
“Great power arises from doing little things unselfishly, wisely and perfectly.” James Allen
A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life. ~James Allen
7 Debora Phillips, Robert Judd – How to fall out of love
Love is the most beautiful of feelings, except when it turns to pain. Great book for when are hurt emotionally. But also serves as an reminder that relationships are fragile. great read. and tons of directly practically applicable exercises to get out of vulnerable state and live your own life.
The book is based on psychotherapy which suggest that almost all human behaviors are learned and can be unlearned. We can change behavior tha causes pain.
Behavior therapy weakens behavior that causes you anxiety or hinders your ability to function comforatbly in your own environment. And it strengchen the behavior that helps you pursue the life you want to live.
Emotional habits ARE RESISTANT to logical arguments or good advice (unfortunately), and the reason for this is that something that is learned emotionally cannot be dealt with on an intellectual level.
Unadaptive behavior is behaviors like:
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of intimacy
- Fear of authority figures
- over eating
Anxiety is the CENTRAL component of much unadaptive behavior. REMEMBER: ANXIETY is a LEARNED BEHAVIOR! as a result from old experiences. This is the reason that you automatically get anxiety in certain situaiont.
ELIMINATION of anxiety is most easily accomplished by inhibiting the anxiety with a competing response!
example = evoke a response (deep relaxation) in the precense of a stimulus that provokes anxiety (crisicisims from your father) – this will weaken the bond .
Competing thoughts will berak the chan.
The books primary function! Stop the pain of NOT being loved.
Virtues of behavior therapy:
a systematic step by step program to reach goals
Basically it gives you a couple of tools to set yourself straight after a bad breakup. It is truly remarkable book and in my life I have the pleasure (not really pleasure) to consult this book and it is amazing how something can be expereinced as the end of the world almost, but after some time not evewn the proportions.
2 great takeaways – you have the tools to shorten the
For those of us lucky/unluck to have feel love for another person that is not feeling it back – we know that it is one of the most painful and excrutiating and painfull experience it is. And especially in the beginning – after a break up once the shock has settled and you wake up and realize that regardless of what you do that person will not be a part of your life anymore. it is TOUGH! Why? well parts of it is that rejection hurts. you wonder if it is your fault and how you could have done things differentluy and a normal reaction is off cours to try to fix it. But normally it cannot be fixed and you realise this intelligently – but it is easier said than done – usually you will consider this experience one of the most valuable lessons in life – but it does not feel like that right now. You just want to get him/her back. However time heals all wounds. This book I truly recommend to shorten the time period and continue moving on and creating more healthy relationships with people that loves you back. Soo here it goes: How to fall out of love in 10 steps . side note – once you practice this you will improve everything and since this is a framework it is comforting that it is a proven process and IT has WORKED for other persons.
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and great takeaway:
Graduated calming techniques
Graduated calming is relearning on a neurological and emotional level. It changes your thoughts, feelings, perceptions, sensations and, most important, your anxiety levels. Graduated calming takes you slowly, step by step, up what behavior therapist call an anxiety (or any other negative emotion) hierarchy, as first described by Dr. Wolpe. In this chapter, the negative emotion that will be reduced is jealousy. You begin with deep muscle relaxation, imagine a situation that causes you some jealousy, and then return to deep relaxation.